The 8 Principal Problem of Effective Listening
One of the most important skills required of anyone who wants to be an excellent communicator is that of being able to listen effectively. However, there are many people who seem to lack this powerful and vital resource which results in a less than perfect communication. It is interesting to note that our studies over the last 10 years indicate that many people believe that
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Definition: Listen. (intentional)
To make an effort to hear something with thoughtful attention; To pay attention; to heed; to take notice of and act on what someone says.
Whenever we talk with someone else about an experience, usually our verbal description will delete a great deal of that experience - often because we assume shared knowledge &/or experiences about the
rpp kurikulum 2013 sma. Our words take a very complex & richly detailed experience combining visual, auditive & kinesthetic elements and summarize it so what is left is a brief outline of the total experience. Whenever we are involved in conversation, we gather information from the other parties involved. However, we also draw on our own experience in making an internal representation of what the other person says in order to:
a) understand it.
b) know what we lack and need to know in order to complete our internal representation.
Frequently, there is a tendency for both us and the other parties involved to use internal filters that delete, distort or generalize the information being given and it is these elements which can adversely affect the efficacy of our
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Problem 1: The Law of Closure.
When we are involved in oral / aural communication, it is impossible for us to give /receive all of the information required so as senders / receptors, we have a tendency to make certain assumptions about what is being said based on the context, the content, the other participant(s), etc. When certain elements are missing, we instinctively tend to fill-in the "blanks" with information drawn from our own experiences so that instead of having
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Problem 2: Law of Field.
In order to listen effectively, we need to be able to focus on the person we are communicating with and concentrate on what they are saying (and NOT saying) and any distractions such as the movement of people in the
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rpp smp kurikulum 2013. The same result occurs when a mobile phone rings or a person starts using a tablet or laptop.
People usually focus on the moving object instead of the static one!
Problem 3: Prejudice
A common problem that occurs in listening is that of prejudice; either conscious or subconscious. This might be related directly to the other participant(s) based on our previous experiences with
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Problem 4: Selective Listening
Unfortunately, we often enter into a conversation with either our own "game-plan" about how we are going to control the conversation in terms of topic(s), structure, duration, etc., or preconceived ideas of how
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Problem 5: Time
To listen effectively, we need to be able to dedicate time to the task. Any conversation where one or both parties are worried about the time available is bound to suffer from listening
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Problem 6: Logical structure / Congruence
Most people generally have a tendency to expect, and look for, logical sequences or structure in their communication. In an aural / oral conversation, if we believe that "A" is true, and "B" is also true, then "C" and every following element must logically fit with rpp 2013 sma information preceding & following it. If this does not occur it conflicts with
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Problem 7: Presuppositions (Going beyond)
Some people have a tendency to extrapolate or go beyond what they hear while others tend to remain constrained by the actual "data" that they have obtained during the conversation. It is important that we are aware both of our own tendencies to do this as well as that of our interlocutor(s) and ensure that if we have a tendency to go
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Problem 8: Questions
In order to resolve many of the problems indicated above, we need to be able to elegantly ask questions to clarify the unclear elements in the communication. While the traditional "open" and "closed" questions serve some purpose, an excellent model to follow is that of the "Meta Model" which is a set of
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Effective listening can only occur when there is an understanding about how experiences are stored in memory and communicated to other people. The concept that "What goes in is what comes out" is incorrect and to be an effective and elegant
http://rppkurikulum2013.blogspot.com communicator, it is necessary to know how to listen properly and ask the right questions to uncover the elements dealt with by the filters of deletion, distortion and generalization.
